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3 Steps: Worry Less & Live With Confidence

3 Steps to Worry Less and Live Confidently

Life is a journey, filled with moments of joy and, at times, challenges that can leave us feeling overwhelmed. Worry and stress often sneak in, stealing our peace of mind and shaking our confidence. But here’s the good news—you can turn those daily worries into a lifestyle of calm and empowerment. I know. I used to be controlled by high general anxiety. Now, I use practical easy techniques that restore my peace, my confidence and my control in any situation.  

You’re not alone on this journey. If you ever feel stuck or want guidance, I’m here to help. Let’s walk this path together. 

Conclusion:

Breaking free from daily worry and stress is possible with consistent effort and a willingness to embrace positive change. By cultivating mindful awareness, shifting negative self-talk, and establishing healthy habits, you can transform your life into one characterized by peace and confidence. Remember that change takes time, so be patient and compassionate with yourself throughout this transformative journey. Start small, stay committed, and watch as your worries melt away, replaced by an empowered and serene version of yourself

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How a Vacation Changed My Life

Kaanapali Maui 2022

To be on vacation is wonderful isn’t it? Some vacations have been so busy that there was not enough time to really savor the experience.  Just sleep, eat and go. Sleep, eat and go and when we return, we are exhausted. Then there are others where there is a restful balance.  My last vacation gave me time for perspective on what is a healthy balanced life. 

This last vacation in Maui was wonderful. What’s not to like about Maui, right?  We had a balcony condo with a beautiful view of the beach.  The beach was no more than two hundred feet from our balcony.  We could hear the surf through the walls. We spent the morning having coffee and breakfast watching the surf. During the day we would either be active with excursions on the island or relaxing on the balcony or by the pool. Maui Life is so peaceful and relaxing. It was a perfect balance between activity and rest. I didn’t want the vacation to end. I just wanted to remain in this peaceful state forever. 

View of the beach from the balcony

I awoke one morning and wondered what it would be like to live and work in Hawaii. Who wouldn’t want this life forever, right?  As I continued to wonder about life in Hawaii, I realized that the commitment of work and life would soon lead to the same lifestyle I have right here at home. 

I live in a beautiful area of the central coast of California. You could even call it paradise. I believe the city of Paso Robles put that on a billboard once. Here I am, living in paradise, the coast not more than 30 min away and I take for granted the beauty around me and I work work work. The beach is right there and yet I barely visit it two times a year. Wouldn’t I fall into the same habit even living in Maui. I fear so.  I mean It isn’t the place as much as it is my values and beliefs. 

For example, our tour guide to the ‘Road to Hana’ is a native of Hawaii and he told us the Hawaii culture that is still taught today is a healthy work balance. Work yes and take time for yourself, family and community. It is taught to them. We, with our western mindset, might call their work ethic leisurely or lazy.  Is it? 

As stress and anxiety and its chronic disease associates become the norm In America, we should be calling ‘time out’ at the top of our lungs. Rather than be critical of taking time for yourselves, we should embrace it. 

The week we spent in Maui was heavenly. We practiced a good balance between activities and rest.  There were a couple days of activities and days to just rest.

Healthy life should also be about a balance between activities and rest. Take time for self care, family and community. 

So many times, I feel I should go visit the beach and I don’t. I feel guilty taking time out for myself. There is always so much to do and not enough time. Right? 

Why do we’ as an American culture’ feel guilty about taking time for self care? What if I went to the beach to just zen, to regain perspective, to balance and reconnect with myself and nature?  Then I think, with so much to do, aren’t I being selfish? What would others think? Aren’t we just a little too worried about what ‘others think’?  I know I am just a little more than I should.   

I do know that moving forward from our western work ethic to a more healthy life balance of work and rest could be a big step.  I also know that change works best and is longer lasting by creating an intention to change and then taking small steps.  Take a small step, be consistent with this change and when it becomes natural, take another small step. Continue moving forward one small step at a time.   

To this end, I have started a daily morning routine of meditation and journaling. When the beach calls me, I will schedule a visit as soon as I can.   I am worth it and so are you!

What small step could you commit to this week? Let me know in the comments


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My 3 Benefits of Mindfulness

3 Benefits to Mindfulness

Here are the three things that I benefit from a mindful practice and they are not listed in any order of importance.

1, Reduction of Stress and Anxiety- I feel myself entering the fret-land and I take a breath* and then go to my breath awareness** in mindfulness

*(The breath I take is a deep belly breath breathing into my core and continuing until my chest rises completely.  This is a full breath)

**(Breath awareness is a type of mindful breathing meditation moment where I am just aware of my breathing. No changing or casting judgment, just awareness)  See my mindful breathing meditation audio here for more information.

2. Mental Clarity- being in a mindful moment brings clarity and creativity.

While being mindful, it is nearly impossible to be feeling anxious or stressed. So your body is now producing feel good hormones like dopamine and serotonin.

You are feeling good, calm and happy.  When you are in this state your mind is receiving good oxygen flow and it is now clear and creative. A clear and creative mindset is the best state to see the problem as it really is and to determine a calm and constructive path out.  Which lead to the 3rd and final benefit I receive from mindfulness.

3. Peace and Balance- when I have that feeling that I am just overwhelmed or torn in too many directions, mindfulness just brings me peace and balance. 

Mindfulness allows me to face the silent stress and anxiousness that ride under my awareness.  In the past, I would let them ride, afraid to face them. Now, I face them and see them for what they are False Evidence Appearing Real (FEAR).  After I face them, they mostly disappear. The ones still remaining are dealt with most effectively using clarity and creativity.  That’s Mindfulness.  What can I say; mindfulness has allowed me to become addicted to feeling peaceful and balanced.

Want more information on how to deal with stress and anxiety? See my blog: “5 Steps to Stop the ‘What Ifs’ and Increase your Power and Peace”

You might also like my audio “Mindful Breathing Meditation”. It is a guided meditation to the mindful breathing meditation I use to remain or restore a state of mindfulness.

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