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You are the Creator of your Life!

You are the creator of your life

You are a powerful creator of your life.  Did you know that? Do you know that your thoughts produce an energy field around you and that energy field attracts onto itself other energy like it. For example, when I worry about something happening and all the worst case scenarios that go along with those worry thoughts, those scenarios or something like it will appear in my life. I am actually creating what I fear into my life.  How crazy is that!  So the question to ask yourself is: ‘what are you thinking’? Really the  more accurate question is: ‘what life are you creating for yourself with your worry thoughts? If you are happy with your life now, no worries. If you are not and you are ready for a change, keep reading

I wasn’t happy with what was happening in my life. I thought, what would happen if I began to apply this information in my life?  I thought, let’s begin to  apply this knowledge in the area  of my past anxiety. It was a game changer for me.  I slowly began stopping my worrisome thoughts about what might happen and began thinking about what I wanted to happen. Not only did the bad thing not happen, my anxiety and stress dropped way down and I felt happier and surprisingly more confident.

Now, I didn’t make this change overnight and it took some time to make this a habit. As I began to become more and more aware of my ‘what if’ and worrisome thoughts, I began changing them more and more and you know what I found? I found that my positive thoughts began to happen more. 

Could the energy people be right? Do we really have the power to create and control our lives? 

Or is this just a coincidence?  

The more I applied the changed thinking into my life the more it began to come true. I was becoming the creator of my life.  I didn’t have to be the victim of my life anymore.  

WOW! My anxiety…GONE!  

Yes, Gone. That is why I have ‘past anxiety’ now.  I remain calm and confident in my life now. When those anxious thoughts appear now…..I stop them and I ask myself, what do I want instead?  Then I imagine that happening and I experience the feeling or emotion as if the event has already happened just as I imagined it.   By keeping my mind on what I want and that experience, I remain calm and confident. The anxiety disappears. 

So how do you do this? How does one become the creator of one’s life? 

Self Hypnosis!  Self hypnosis is the process of applying a focused thought while in a relaxed state of mind.  This simple process raises your vibration (energy field) and at the same time you are focused on what you want and how it makes you feel.  This combination of imagination and emotion is the key. What is emotion but vibration and energy? So, really bring into the experience as much emotion as you can. It really isn’t hard when you begin thinking about how wonderful the experience would be and having what you are imagining right now in the moment.

Self hypnosis isn’t just not for anxiety.

No Self Hypnosis works for everything.  It will work for goals, chronic pain control, weight loss, quit smoking, sleeping better and anything. Self hypnosis will work on any behavior you want to increase or decrease or change. Some of the  processes may change depending on the issue and end result but the core of self hypnosis, imagination and emotion, is always there.  

 So what do you have to lose? You could continue to think about those worrisome and what if thoughts or you could stop them and create the life you want instead. 

In light,

Art Kuhns

PS: You might like an audio recording to help you with the process of relaxing and using your imagination with emotion.  I have the perfect audio recording here

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How a Vacation Changed My Life

Kaanapali Maui 2022

To be on vacation is wonderful isn’t it? Some vacations have been so busy that there was not enough time to really savor the experience.  Just sleep, eat and go. Sleep, eat and go and when we return, we are exhausted. Then there are others where there is a restful balance.  My last vacation gave me time for perspective on what is a healthy balanced life. 

This last vacation in Maui was wonderful. What’s not to like about Maui, right?  We had a balcony condo with a beautiful view of the beach.  The beach was no more than two hundred feet from our balcony.  We could hear the surf through the walls. We spent the morning having coffee and breakfast watching the surf. During the day we would either be active with excursions on the island or relaxing on the balcony or by the pool. Maui Life is so peaceful and relaxing. It was a perfect balance between activity and rest. I didn’t want the vacation to end. I just wanted to remain in this peaceful state forever. 

View of the beach from the balcony

Hawaii life

I awoke one morning and wondered what it would be like to live and work in Hawaii. Who wouldn’t want this life forever, right?  As I continued to wonder about life in Hawaii, I realized that the commitment of work and life would soon lead to the same lifestyle I have right here at home. 

I live in a beautiful area of the central coast of California. You could even call it paradise. I believe the city of Paso Robles put that on a billboard once. Here I am, living in paradise, the coast not more than 30 min away and I take for granted the beauty around me and I work work work. The beach is right there and yet I barely visit it two times a year. Wouldn’t I fall into the same habit even living in Maui. I fear so.  I mean It isn’t the place as much as it is my values and beliefs. 

Healthly Balanced Life

For example, our tour guide to the ‘Road to Hana’ is a native of Hawaii and he told us the Hawaii culture that is still taught today is a healthy work balance. Work yes and take time for yourself, family and community. It is taught to them. We, with our western mindset, might call their work ethic leisurely or lazy.  Is it? 

Time Out

As stress and anxiety and its chronic disease associates become the norm In America, we should be calling ‘time out’ at the top of our lungs. Rather than be critical of taking time for yourselves, we should embrace it. 

The week we spent in Maui was heavenly. We practiced a good balance between activities and rest.  There were a couple days of activities and days to just rest.

Healthy life should also be about a balance between activities and rest. Take time for self care, family and community. 

So many times, I feel I should go visit the beach and I don’t. I feel guilty taking time out for myself. There is always so much to do and not enough time. Right? 

Why do we’ as an American culture’ feel guilty about taking time for self care? What if I went to the beach to just zen, to regain perspective, to balance and reconnect with myself and nature?  Then I think, with so much to do, aren’t I being selfish? What would others think? Aren’t we just a little too worried about what ‘others think’?  I know I am just a little more than I should.   

Little Steps to Change

I do know that moving forward from our western work ethic to a more healthy life balance of work and rest could be a big step.  I also know that change works best and is longer lasting by creating an intention to change and then taking small steps.  Take a small step, be consistent with this change and when it becomes natural, take another small step. Continue moving forward one small step at a time.   

To this end, I have started a daily morning routine of meditation and journaling. When the beach calls me, I will schedule a visit as soon as I can.   I am worth it and so are you!

What small step could you commit to this week? Let me know in the comments


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STOP Exam Stress-Face the Exam & Succeed

Stop Exam/Test Stress & Anxiety NOW

3 Steps to Face the Exam & Succeed

The Exam or Stressful Situation

Have you ever had a test or exam or other stressful anxiety filled situation in your life and you didn’t know how you were going to get through it? Do you want to STOP exam stress NOW? Then read on. I have 3 steps to face the exam and succeed.

Let’s introduce my stress event “The Exam”

I wanted to have a commercial drivers license.  The driving exam at the dmv is on the calendar and this exam has three sections, many moving parts and a lot of memorization. The vehicle inspection test is the most difficult part for many people and was the most daunting for me. The inspection covers various parts of the vehicles starting at the front to the rear and the top to the bottom.  One has to show the examiner the part you are talking about and tell him why you are inspecting it.  So it has many elements of memorization and organization.  Once I pass this test, I move on to the driving skills, This is backing up, offset backing and parallel parking.  This is enough to throw some people and does and then on to the ‘on road’ driving test.  Going through such a 3 part test has many pitfalls. How did I get through it?  I found these 3 different anxiety busting steps to effectively prepare for the exam and to remain calm and engaged during each test section to a successful conclusion.

My first Step: Core breathing:

Whenever the stress, anxiety, feeling of doom or being overwhelmed began to arise, I stopped and took a few deep core breaths. When taking these core breaths, it is important to know that the breaths begin in the core. Why? When you breathe into the core first, it signals your ‘flight and fight’ part of your brain that you are safe. (Stress & anxiety activates the fight & flight response)  When your brain knows you are safe it begins to turn down and possibly even off the fight/flight chemicals such as epinephrine and adrenaline allowing your mind and body to begin to relax.  This is why core breathing is so important. Now that your mind and body is beginning to relax, because you are safe, you can move into the next step. 

Second Step: is Mindful Breathing:

After a few core breaths, I use this technique to continue to relax the mind and body. I know of no other technique that stops anxiety in its tracks like mindful meditation. It is simply amazing. In short, Mindful Breathing is to simply stop whatever you are doing and become aware of your breathing. Not to change the breathing in any way, just be aware of your breathing. Use mindful breathing as long as it takes for the anxiety to fall away and the mind and body to relax. As I relaxed deeper, I allowed my mind to now move into the next step. 


Third Step: Visualization. Watching the event:

This is where I get to provide my mind how I want the event to unfold. In the example of the exam, I would see myself in front of the examiner as he said, Mr. Kuhns you have passed. Congratulations.  I would allow myself to feel the emotions of success, satisfaction and joy of passing.  This is an important part of the 3 steps.  You must convince yourself that you deserve and believe you can accomplish the event successfully. If not, it opens the mind to self-sabotage and undermines your chances of success.

Practicing the Steps:

I was just having an anxiety trigger of ‘What If’ I fail episode and I had moved through the core breathing, the mindful breathing meditation and I was watching the exam in my mind. A ‘not so happy’ examinitor appeared in my scene and at first I saw myself become more nervous and intimidated by his attitude. That’s when it became clear that my anxiety was based on failing. (This is another benefit of this process, it helps find the core reason for the anxiety)

So then I asked myself, what is the worst case if I fail? Answer: I get to retake the test with the experience and lessons from my 1st attempt.  Is that acceptable? Answer: Yes. (Now, mind you, this is a conversation happening in my head) 

Let Go and Have Fun!

After I made that agreement with myself,  I then remembered my Toastmaster training and I just started saying to myself, let go of the results and have fun. Let go of the results and have fun. As I repeated it, I saw myself grow in confidence.  It didn’t matter if the examitor was unfriendly or intimidating.  The sting of his control was gone.  The inspection part of the exam became a presentation (just like the many I have given in Toastmasters) where I just ‘let go’ and have fun. Just like I was trained in Toastmasters.  From then on, I used this affirmation/mantra whenever the anxiety began to raise it ugly head and ruin my fun. I was also amazed at how easy preparing for the test became.  Gone was the procrastination and memory loss of important parts. I was relaxed, confident and motivated.

Preparing for the exam, from this point on, became easy and fun.

Mantra or Affirmation:

This is a bonus tool in my stress busting technique.  I like to use mantras or affirmations to overcome a core stressor.  In this case, the fear of failing.  The fear of failing was my core issue that was stealing my confidence and motivation.  So the mantra, ‘just let it go and have fun’ was born to remind me of the deal I made with myself.  It is okay to fail. Just have fun.  

Test Day

Now, fast forward, I am at the DMV, my confidence is high. I am ready. I am not going to be denied.

Right from the start I made a mistake that would have knocked my confidence and intimidated me. Instead, I laughed off, took a deep core breath, repeated my mantra ‘just let it go and have fun’ and continued on.

Several times during the test, I made errors. Each time, I laughed off, took a deep core breath, repeated my mantra ‘just let it go and have fun’ and continued on.

During the very long drive test, which I even commented to the examiner ‘this is one long ass road test’ I would take deep core breaths and repeat my mantra to stay focused and alert.

It worked, as I finally pulled back into the DMV, the examiner informed me that I had passed and I proceeded into the DMV to process the paperwork. 

The process from start to finish was almost 2 hours and it felt like 4. 

Conclusion:

I believe these 3 to 4 steps were crucial in my success.  If I wasn’t able to get my attitude turned from anxiety into fun, I wouldn’t have had the confidence to overcome the first few errors. Instead, I was able to let them go and move on.  And so can you! 

Perhaps you could try these steps for your next stressful event or situation.  Let me know how it turned out for you?

If you would like help in reducing and eliminating Anxiety in your life, reach out to me with the form below.  I offer a free 20 min consultation to determine if hypnosis is right for you.  You can even call me directly at 805-242-1649

Additional reading 5 Steps to Stop the ‘What If’s” can be read here:

You may find this audio helpful: Reduce Stress & Anxiety and Sleep Better

If you need assistance with your exam or stressful event, I am here to help. Contact me with the form below for your free 20 min consultation. Then you will know if hypnosis is a solution to your problem or not.